Today I want to talk about something I have been observing quite often lately.
Most of people care about what other people think or say about them.
And initially, I would have said: it’s normal. We live all together and no one likes being criticised. Or more than that, no one wants other people to dislike them. But I think we should think about that twice.
How many times have you said to yourself: “I really want to do this, but I can’t: people would laugh at me!” Or: “I can not do that, what will people say? What will my family think of me?” Or: “ I can not do that, they would be so disappointed, that is not what they expect from me”.
I am pretty sure we all had those kind of thoughts at least once in our life. But honestly….. what for??? So we want to do something, we know that it will make us happy, and WE DON’T? For what? Because people will not like us anymore?? As I am writing this it actually gets me… irritated. Sorry :-). Why would you stop your dream, stop yourself, block yourself from being the amazing being you really want to be, just to avoid people’s opinion about it? Why should their opinion have such an impact on YOUR life? Their opinion is what is it: THEIR opinion. This should have no impact on you, your dreams, your passion, what you really thrive for. You are the only one living your life, right? Will they be in your skin? NO!! So why bother?
I have to talk about myself here: I used to work in banking as a Sales Trader. And then I changed completely my career and decided to do what I am passionate for and what makes me want to wake up every single day as early as possible: helping people with holistic health and principles. At the beginning, it was really hard for me to talk about it to my banker friends. Even to my family. I was blocked by thoughts like: “what will they think? They will never understand my decision! Will they think that I lost my mind? Will they still talk to me? Will I disappoint them?”. Yeah. So I didn’t do anything for a couple of months just because of that. But deep down I knew exactly what I wanted and what I had to do. And one day, I just took the decision to go for it. Thinking: “That’s it. This is who I am and who I want to be. I don’t care what they think, because I will be so happy and empowered doing what I really love, that honestly, negativity won’t bother me anymore”. And you know what happened? Yes, some people were really surprised. Some people actually stopped talking to me. But most of them came to me and asked me what I was doing and how I got there. And when they saw my passion, my energy, my love for what I am doing, well, there was nothing negative to say about it. Actually, most of them said: “I envy you”.
Whatever you do in your life, you will always have people who will criticize, point the finger at you, or who will try to put you down. Well you know what? It doesn’t matter. You don’t need those people in your life. Because all the rest, the real good ones, who only want the best for you, they will always support you. They will always be there, and help you on your way, whatever the way is.
What I mean with all of that is: listen to your guts. Do the things you really want to do. Go for it, believe in yourself.
Free yourself from non-needed negativity and believe that you can do it. Empower yourself, and you know what? Prove them wrong. Those people who criticize, judge and think bad things of what you are doing? Prove them wrong. And keep in mind that their negativity towards you is only their own perception about themselves. Oftentimes, those people actually wish they could do the same...
Hope this will liberate your beautiful souls and let express your talents!
In love and happiness,